This post will be something that’s mentioned on my blog posts previously. I was reading a few articles regarding late bloomers and realise that I’m not alone..
I wanted to do my own take of the post above and the things that happened:
1. Going from the Ugly Ducking to Attractive later on in life:
Sure I didn’t follow what everyone did in high school and university i.e dating, relationships, sex, drinking, partying. The high school me was studious kind, awkward, ugly duckling i.e wasn’t happy in my own skin was me.
I wanted to represent the prefects during the last year of high school but didn’t happen (over a decade ago, hazy memories). People underestimated me in high school. Being in an all girls school wasn’t exactly my place of fun. I did talk to a guy from tutoring however that didn’t develop any further. How fun to talk about these high school days..not. After that, towards the end of high school (mainly tutoring at an end of year cruise), one so called class mate wanted to set me up but I wasn’t clearly interested. Why set me up if i don’t talk to you at all?
Also wore baggy, loose fitting, unflattering clothes during that stage.
Now fast forward to a decade older, I now enjoy going out, partying, drinking and my dress sense has changed a lot. My wardrobe now exists of tight pants, figure hugging dresses / skirts, shorts, blouses, cropped shirt and heels in moderation. I feel much more confident now that my wardrobe has changed.
2. Dating late uni life.
I observed my cousin go through a bad relationship for nearly 2 years and that held me off dating. In fact I was with one guy for 6 months and that faded (due to being lead on, and that caused me numbness / confusion). Another guy before him asked me out but was pretty desperate (plus I wasn’t interested anyway). After uni life finished, I decided not to be interested in relationships/dating from that point on.
Working life came after that and 8 months working at my first place, I started chatting to a new co-worker. From that point on we started chatting long and then the next moment, he asked if we could grab coffee together during the lunch break. He then asked me if I wanted to pursue dating but I kindly rejected saying that I wasn’t in the head space / mentality, plus I had no feelings, wasn’t interested and not looking for relationships/dating. That was 3 years ago.
I’m still not looking for a relationship/dating at this stage which I am totally fine with which leads me to the next point:
3. Having sexual energy later on in life.
I’ve seen my uni classmates have boyfriends, party, go-out, talk about hook-up. Never understood and appealed to me in my early days. So the guy that I mentioned in the previous point mentioned about sex. At that stage I was hesitant because I’d never thought about it. Plus he was inexperienced too so made me a little nervous. We did start of mostly touching and fondling but then when it came to oral sex, I freaked out (plus it was in the men’s bathroom). That was 5 years ago. So yes, that’s where I’ve kept my pent up energy until now..
In recent times I’ve been thinking about anything of sexual nature. Yes I’ve watched porn (late nights) and seen sex scenes in movies but doesn’t translate to real life. I’m currently experiencing and enjoying things of this nature a.t.m and so far its good (not disclosing any details) :).
4. Independence and no kids.
Even though I still live at home, I’m not currently in a relationship right now. Likewise I’ve seen people my age get married, have kids and I’m not in that mindset right now. Just want to enjoy what life throws at me and see what happens.
I can live without needing at significant other and that’s perfectly fine.
Having not settled down at this stage allows me to explore and self develop myself.
5. Appreciation of University (Second time).
Even though that I have my first degree in a different field, I wasn’t passionate with what I studied. Going back to uni for the second time for a Masters and at an older age. One of managers who went as a mature age student mentioned they appreciate university whilst (or after) working full time more than those straight out of high school. This is true as my work experience helped me get into the Masters degree of choice. I shall do a post on what is involved in the process of applying for a Masters degree?
6. Patience for things and running my own race.
I’ve developed walls when I was younger for the above mentioned things. Over time I’ve developed patience over things such as the above things mentioned. I’ve seen people that I know of that rush things such as marriage, engagements, having a boyfriend (even my sister has a boyfriend from first year). Even my mum to family friends hint that i should be in a relationship but honestly, this is my life and not wanting to settle into their norms! I’m happy not to give into pressure and glad to run my own path.
So are you a late bloomer too? If so, then benefits have you discovered?